Breastfeeding Bumblebee has come much more naturally than it did with Ladybug. I lasted about five months with Ladybug, and then I needed to stop because I was overwhelmed with stress being new to motherhood, and babysitting two kids five days a week 11 hours a day. Something had to change, so I dropped breastfeeding to have a little more control in my life. I felt better overall, but had tons of guilt for not making a full year.
With Ladybug, I was very much under the illusion that every aspect of my parenting style was under constant scrutiny. Hey, I mean it really could have been but I think I started to feel judged over everything by everyone. I recall a specific instance where James and I were out with another couple and their bottle fed infant. We were sitting at a bench, I put on my cover when the mother exclaimed that, “Breastfeeding, is just so… unnatural.” Ummm, what? She then went on to bash on breastfeeding for a five minute rant. Ummm, ok… cool story bro. I felt like I was being shamed for feeding my child. Not for soda, or junkfood but for breast milk.
So mom’s out there, can we all do each other a favor and make the choice to stop shaming each other for how we feed our infants or toddlers? Breast milk is awesome, but it isn’t holy water. Formula is not poison either, dudes. Building a mother up, and being supportive is what is best in this situation for mom and baby. Let us stop the judgement of making a different choice than you would make. Unicorns and rainbows for all.
I was reading up on extended breastfeeding a couple of weeks ago, and read that only about 1% of moms continue breastfeeding past six months. Wow, first thought was that I can’t believe Bumblebee and I have made it to that and beyond. Second thought, I can now let go of the guilt of not making it that far with Ladybug. 99% of other moms found it hard or had other reasons to choose formula. Either way I’m finding I’m feeling so much less alone, singled out… Either that or I just don’t care anymore what others think about how I choose to feed my children anymore.
Do you have any breastfeeding stories that helped you choose to continue on despite others? Feel free share your successes and struggles with breastfeeding. The more we talk about it the less taboo it is. Then maybe we can change the world a little by making breastfeeding comfortable conversation for all.